Making friends can be an exciting but often challenging experience, especially for adults who are already juggling a long list of responsibilities and demands. Once we find the time, it often feels like we’re ‘out of shape’ when it comes to our socialization skills–but the good news is that building connections is a skill you can practice. Let’s explore some practical, easy to implement methods for building meaningful friendships as adults.
Practical Methods for Building Meaningful Friendships
1. Start With Shared Interests
Start with activities you already enjoy, but include others! This is an effective way to both meet new individuals and form friendships. Joining clubs regarding subjects you’re already interested in, enrolling in a class for a skill you’ve always wanted to learn, playing sports, or engaging in community groups can help you meet people naturally.
2. Focus on Curiosity Rather Than Performance
You don’t need to be a professional author or speaker to connect with others. You don’t even need to be an expert on a topic you already know a little bit about! Most people value real interest. Ask questions and listen to improve conversations and reduce pressure.
Remember: You don’t need expertise—genuine interest is enough.
3. Prioritize Consistency
Hooray! Maybe you found someone who seems “OK-enough,” and you want to engage with them more. Friendships grow through regular, positive interactions. So, showing up and engaging often helps build trust.
Consistency matters more than making a big impression!
4. Practice Everyday Kindness
Simple actions go a long way. Things like saying hello, remembering names, or even offering help when appropriate can make others feel valued. If you find it challenging to remember names, that’s ok! Asking for reminders can show someone you are interested and caring!
5. Normalize Social Discomfort
It’s normal to feel awkward or unsure in social situations. These moments don’t mean you’ve failed—they’re just part of the learning and growing process. Most people don’t even notice these moments as much as you may think they do.
6. Be Authentic While Remaining Respectful
Good friendships are based on being your authentic self.
Treating others with openness, respect, and care helps build strong relationships where everyone feels accepted and valued. Sometimes this means taking small risks, like starting a conversation, inviting someone to the bookstore, or showing interest in spending time together.
Not every effort will lead to a close friendship, but each attempt helps you grow more confident and socially skilled. Some relationships stay casual, while others grow stronger over time. Building friendships doesn’t always happen in a straightforward trajectory, and that’s OK!
Remember to be patient and kind to yourself.
Building Skills for Meaningful Connections
If making or maintaining friendships feels especially challenging, our Behavioral Health services can help. Our therapists work with patients to build confidence, strengthen social skills, and develop tools for navigating relationships at every stage of life. Get started by calling us at 919.874.5443, or visit here to schedule an appointment.
